Yesterday evening I was lucky enough to interview a Shaman for the magazine that I work for. It was one of the most extraordinary experiences I’ve ever had. I won’t go into detail here (I’ll save those for the article I’m writing), but one of the things that stood out about our conversation was his […]
Tag: infidelity
Fair
A couple of days ago, a friend at work asked me if I was writing this blog for E to read. My answer was a rather surprised ‘no’. There were a few reasons I started writing this blog. The first was to explore what had happened to me, to pull at strands of the tangled […]
The Secret Diary of E, aged 37 3/4* *(according to J). The Early Years: Part One
Over the last year or so loads of people have asked me what on earth was going on in E’s head. I usually shrug, shake my head and say something along the lines of ‘unfathomable’. But maybe, just maybe, I can guess. Below is the first in a series of light-hearted attempts to look at […]
Peace
I noticed today that I started this blog on 19th February 2018. By sheer coincidence this was the 10th anniversary of the day that I found out about E’s first affair. I didn’t deliberately choose the date, but it now seems strangely serendipitous that the date that everything started to fall apart ten years ago, […]
In his words
Today, I’m doing something I didn’t think I would ever do. I’m handing today’s blog over to E. I thought long and hard before doing this. After all, this blog is all about me finding MY voice and trying to give a voice to other people who have had their lives blighted by infidelity. The […]
Soft Focus
The picture Youngest Son had found was E’s updated WhatsApp profile picture. It was a wedding photograph. It’s a sideways on shot of P (in one of her two wedding dresses), puckering up to E in some sort of tropical cabana. You can’t really see their faces, it’s all soft focus and gentle waves and […]
Bar
Today I’m handing part of the blog over to one of Oldest Daughter’s best friends – C. They have been friends for most of their lives and C is one of the friends that has been by Oldest Daughter’s side throughout everything she’s been though as a result of E’s leaving. C, along with a […]
Giving Up
E’s response, or lack thereof, to what had happened with Youngest Daughter was pretty much the final nail in the coffin of my perception of him. Until that point, I’d still sort of hoped he was a decent person who was acting out of character (an otherwise good man who was a bit of a […]
Photograph
On the morning of our first full day in Singapore, I made E and I a cup of coffee each. We had no cups and no milk, just wine glasses and a couple of half-pint tankard-style glasses (coffee, wine and beer – I always have been all about the priorities). I poured our coffee into […]
First Christmas
If I’d struggled during Christmas 2016, because I knew about E’s affairs and I knew that we would have to split up, I was equally challenged, although for completely different reasons, by Christmas 2017. We’d faced down a whole year of ‘firsts’ as a family of five, not six, but Christmas was the big one. […]
He-total: Life without Ex 