By Mid-March I had begun to realise that as far as the kids were concerned, I was it. There wasn’t anyone else anymore. Whilst I’m sure he’d help if he could, E had moved over forty miles away. Neither his family nor mine were local. I had lots of amazing, incredibly supportive, friends who would […]
Tag: relationships
In defence of blogging
One of the questions I’ve been asked several times since starting this blog is ‘why discuss this so publicly?’. It’s a fair question. Whilst I’m very open and honest (ask me a straight question about my personal life, I’ll usually give an straight answer) I’m actually quite a private person. I’m on Facebook a lot, […]
Sober
In March 2017 I decided to give my liver a chance and give up alcohol for the month. Not only was I exhausted, but my Drunk Shopping was in danger of becoming embarrassing. The kids were loving the regular buckets of gummy bears, but the morning my internet search history revealed that I’d been […]
Family Ties
One of the things I was really worried about when E left was what would happen to my relationship with his family. They had been a big part of my life, for over half of my life, and they were very much a part of my kids’ lives. To be honest, E had always been […]
Her
So far I’ve only talked about P in passing, along with O, K and Forum Post Woman, as ‘the other women’. I haven’t allocated any real importance to her or any emotion towards her, and that’s because, I genuinely don’t really feel very much about her. I know some women would, quite understandably, feel anger, […]
Speechless
In the meantime, whilst I job hunted (no more science jobs for me), perfected my drunk shopping techniques, and tried to make everything ok for the kids, things with E were, well, totally silent. I don’t know what I expected, but I had just assumed that at some point he’d talk to me about what […]
Slippers and rats
If looking for a job was daunting, attending interviews was utterly terrifying. Once I’d stopped shaking, my first interview in 20 years was actually ok. The two woman who interviewed me were lovely and all in all I was glad to get it under my belt. I didn’t get the job, but they did send […]
Happy Hunting
I needed a job. This was probably one of the most absolutely daunting things I had to face in the aftermath of E leaving. It also stung a bit because, from her LinkedIn profile (the kids were regular stalkers), it looked like P had just found a brand new job of her own – in […]
Retail Therapy
As January stretched into February and I began to mark the time since E had left in weeks, not days, I discovered a hidden talent. Over the years I’ve become used to doing a lot of my shopping online, I’ve always been pretty good and stuck to stuff that I needed or couldn’t get locally. […]
Grandma
As I’ve said several times, I am hugely lucky to have the most incredible family and friends. I’ve never been so conscious of this as I was in those first few weeks of January 2017. Whilst everything was happening with E, as they have been for my my entire life, my Mum, Dad and sister […]
He-total: Life without Ex 